Today I want to share my Core Desired Feelings, how I came to choose them and what they mean to me.
As well as my Core Desired Feelings I also have a set of Personal Values. I see the two sets of words a little differently…
- My Values help me go about my life in ways that feel right to me.
- My Core Desired Feelings help me with the direction I want to go.
Together they help me to make life decisions, set goals and work toward achieving what I want.
What are Core Desired Feelings?
Have you heard of a book called the Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte? It’s a workbook for determining your Core Desired Feelings. The tagline of the book reads “A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul”.
This is what the author has to say about Core Desired Feelings and how they relate to goal setting:
“You’re not chasing the goal, you’re chasing the feeling that you hope attaining the goal will give you.”
“So what if, first, we get clear on how we actually want to feel, and then we design our goals – intentions that are in sync with who we truly are, achieved in ways that are actually life affirming and nourishing instead of an endurance test.”
“Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating those feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.”
I see Core Desired Feelings as the essence of my hopes and aspirations. They are the feeling behind my goals.
How I chose my Core Desired Feelings
I determined my Core Desired Feelings as part of the Soul Seeker Retreat I did in 2015. I started writing Morning Pages at the same time. To begin with I loaned the Desire Map book from the library to use during the retreat but before the book was due back at the library I ordered my own copy!
It’s a great book – split into 2 parts. The first part contains a lot of essays by Danielle LaPorte about our desires and why it’s so important to set goals with feeling behind them. The second part is the workbook with lots of exercises for determining your Core Desired Feelings and how to use them to be happier in life.
The workbook walks you through different areas of your life and gives you prompts to help you determine how you want to feel in each area. There are some great exercises to help you “claim” your core desired feelings and work out which feelings you want more of in your life.
My Core Desired Feelings and what they mean to me
Believing, in awe of the bigger picture, part of the universe, amazed, in flow
Excitement, anticipation, creativity, alive, daring
Healthy, nurtured, self love, self care, absorbing goodness (in all areas of my life)
Mindful, loyal, engagement, collaboration, love
Tranquility, quiet, contentment, not in battle with myself or anyone else, grounded
Where I am at
I want to be honest and tell you that I’ve not been as focused on my core desired feelings in 2017. I don’t currently have a visual reminder that I see everyday (I’m going to pin up the list in the photo above so I can see it!) and sometimes weeks have gone by without me thinking of them. When I looked at my goals and aspirations for the year I did take them into account. I think I tend to aim for those feelings without even making a conscious decision to do so.
I’m not sure I feel as connected to these words now as I did when I first decided them. Each one still holds great meaning to me but I’m not certain they are still the feelings I want to seek more than anything else. It’s been enlightening to write about them and doing so has helped me reconnect with them. I think I will re-read The Desire Map next year and consider revising my core desired feelings.
Have you read the Desire Map? Do you agree that goal setting is more about what we want to feel than achieving something specific? I’d love to know what your Core Desired Feelings are if you have your own. I’m fascinated by the words that people collect (as an avid word collector myself!).